Wise as Yoda I was not today. In fact, I can categorically state that I lost it.
I ran into an acquaintance at an event and exchanged pleasantries. As the event wrapped up, we caught up again and had a good conversation before leaving. It was at this point where we touched briefly about a proposal I put in before I left a voluntary project. We chatted about new ideas to add to the proposal, and he ended the conversation by telling me it should be easy for me because I basically have ‘washed my hands of it’ or ‘lepas tangan’, which is the Bahasa Malaysia equivalent – which is close to the meaning of the phrase: to renounce or abandon something.
Instead of responding in an elegant manner of how I am not that kind of person; how I am still around to help and I did not abandon the friends who are still helping out, I was in his face, practically snarling at him to take that comment back. While I backed down shortly after that, I must admit that I did snarl. Not pretty.
As I walked away, I realized how much it meant to me to be regarded as responsible by the people I work with. I realize how I endeavor the best I can to complete any handover, and it is unacceptable for me to be regarded as irresponsible. I am now aware that there is a line that I will not let anyone cross.
I also now realize there may be certain things for which I will not apologize profusely: one of them is how I will correct any misunderstanding about my core values. While I may be inviting severe criticism with this, I choose to live with it. Some of my beliefs may not sit well with a lot of people but they are mine, and they make me into who I am today, for better or worse.
What are YOUR core values? What do you believe in that you will defend (and maybe even snarl to do so)?